“You’ll find that everything
is an emergency,” she said, almost mockingly. “There are other places that they
can go for help, though. It’s best not to let people in your home. It needs to
be your place to rest. In the villages, Indians aren’t allowed into the
missionaries’ homes. They can meet with them other places, but not in their
homes.”
I tried to track with what she was saying, but somehow it
didn’t sit right with me.
Then she gave the usual advice about setting time frames for
people to come over, “being careful”, and not getting “too involved”.
But something in me said, “That can’t be right…”
This came from a missionary who has been doing this for
several decades and I wanted to believe that what she was saying were words of
wisdom. I wanted to believe that I could separate myself from the needs around
me. Compartmentalize if you will.
I wanted it to be that easy.
But somehow when that brown hair, brown eyed girl that you
love with fragments for teeth and those same tattered clothes comes over to
your house with a tummy ache and throws up in your floor and then crawls up in your lap to be held because her mom and
dad don’t care an ounce about her, you just can’t seem to find it in you to
say, “Sorry, this is our home where we rest. You can’t come in.”
And when you have an Indian Pastor from a two day canoe ride
up river come to you with his family of eight and tell you that they are in
town for the night with no where to stay and his wife and two daughters have
malaria and his 73 year old mom is sick with something and his niece and nephew
have a hacking cough and God provided for you to have medical training to care
for these very things and you have two boxes full of medicines and the means to
treat them and extra mattresses and more than enough food, you just can’t find
it in you to say, “There is this clinic for Indians you can go to. You’ll have
to sleep on the floor there and they probably won’t know what to treat you with
and will send you away with nothing to eat, but we can’t get ‘too involved’.”
Then when six kids show up hungry for breakfast almost every
morning in the same clothes they wore yesterday (or completely naked as is the
case with the youngest) because their dad is always drunk and their mom works
to pay for his drinking habit and her party habit and leaves her kids to fend
for themselves, you just can’t seem to bring yourself to close the door and
say, “This is our family’s meal time. I’m sure someone will feed you.”
But I wish I could sometimes.
I wish I could just close our doors to the reality of the
world we live in with the sick and the hurting and the lost and the lonely. I
wish I could pretend I didn’t know about that sick baby or that man with
Tuberculosis or those little eyes watching pornography because they live in a
one bedroom 200 square foot house with their drunken parents.
Sometimes I’m tired and I don’t want to answer the door. And
if I have to break up one more fight over the crayons and explain one more time
why we can’t live off of candy I might go crazy.
Sometimes I don’t speak in love and I forget to give grace.
Sometimes I fumble all over my words as I try to explain in
my third language the why behind not
stealing, not lying, not hitting and the only Person who can make us good.
Sometimes I lie in bed awake at 2am because our neighbor’s
blaring music is literally shaking our wooden house and feel like I must be the
worst parent in the world because between the laundry that I’ve been trying to
dry on the line for three days because of the rain and the little mouths to
feed and the half a dozen unannounced visitors and the three trips into town, I
forgot to take a moment to stop and look into my own little boy’s eyes and see
his needs.
And I laugh when I remember how I thought that selling
everything and moving to another country away from family and all things
familiar was the hard part.
No. The hard part is the dying to self every day.
Because if we don’t allow ourselves to be poured out and
broken, we never learn to lean on the one who was poured out and broken for us.
If we close our doors and our eyes to the needs around us
for the sake of comfort and ease, we close our hearts to the transforming power
of the Holy Spirit who wants to renew our minds and make us more into the image
of Christ.
So, yes, many times we will tell the neighborhood kids that
play time is over and send them home because our own kids needs some one on one.
We will say no when we are asked for money for the non-essentials. Every now
and then we will “run-away” to the nearby city to get some quality family time
and uninterrupted rest.
But we will continue to feed bellies and clothe bodies and
wipe tears and teach truth and disciple new believers and encourage old
believers and bandage wounds and pray for the sick as long as God gives us the
means by which to do it even when it is uncomfortable and we’re tired and the water tanks are dry and we
all four have to pile up in one bed because the other four mattresses are
unexpectedly occupied.
And our doors will remain open.
We don’t always want to do it. And
we don’t always do it right. And we are still learning. But He never said it
would be comfortable or easy. And He never said to be safe or to not get too
involved.
It’s hard.
But it’s in the hard that we are
made like Him.
“We give no opportunity for stumbling to anyone, so that
the ministry will not be blamed. But as God’s ministers,
we commend ourselves in everything:
by great endurance, by afflictions,
by hardship, by difficulties,
by beatings, by imprisonments,
by riots, by labors,
by sleepless nights, by times of hunger,
by purity, by knowledge,
by patience, by kindness,
by the Holy Spirit, by sincere love,
by hardship, by difficulties,
by beatings, by imprisonments,
by riots, by labors,
by sleepless nights, by times of hunger,
by purity, by knowledge,
by patience, by kindness,
by the Holy Spirit, by sincere love,
by the message of truth,
by the power of God;
through weapons of righteousness
on the right hand and the left,
through glory and dishonor,
through slander and good report;
as deceivers yet true;
as unknown yet recognized;
as dying and look—we live;
as being disciplined yet not killed;
as grieving yet always rejoicing;
as poor yet enriching many;
as having nothing yet possessing everything.”
by the power of God;
through weapons of righteousness
on the right hand and the left,
through glory and dishonor,
through slander and good report;
as deceivers yet true;
as unknown yet recognized;
as dying and look—we live;
as being disciplined yet not killed;
as grieving yet always rejoicing;
as poor yet enriching many;
as having nothing yet possessing everything.”
2 Corinthians 6.3-10